No One Knows More About Your Failures Than You

A perspective I realized that helped me feel better about failing.

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Eric Aaberg
April 30, 2025

In one of my other posts, I talked about how you shouldn’t be afraid of failure, but actually be afraid of not trying or applying yourself.

Sure, not being afraid of failure is one thing - but won’t everyone know I failed?!

Let me give you a reality check: Everyone else is so focused on themselves, therefore, they only see a glimpse of you.

Unless you have a true hater out there (or what I like to call: a fan), no one is going to know all 100% of the fails you’ve had.

  • No one sees 100% of your failures

  • No one sees 10% of your failed projects

  • No one will remember your failed startup, they’ll remember you tried and have a strong entrepreneurship spirit.

Let me put it in perspective: Remember how on that America’s Got Talent show, they showed videos of people failing/falling down to millions? Can you genuinely name one right now off the top of your head? No…?

Exactly, and the same case is here - even if someone notices you failed, they’re going to forget (and if they don’t or treat you poorly about it, then they don’t belong in your life).

Still not convinced?

No one is going to see 100% of your wins or successes.

I’ve worked on gaming, social media, and community for 10+ years and could bet, even with a robust resume and constantly yapping on LinkedIn, that not a single person on this planet knows every single successful brand, project, or milestone I’ve made.

Genuine people are going to focus anyway on the good > the bad (of what people have done), and you can always turn a failure into a learning lesson, demonstration of skills, and even an honest case study.

To fail is to be human. Either you let that shit empower you or you’ll let it eat you alive.

Eric Aaberg (I guess I just came up with that last part? Idk it feels motivational so Imma make it a quote)

I can count more businesses, ideas, and side quests that I’ve failed than fingers I have on my two hands.

I challenge you to try something new this next month and embrace failure. Or an easier challenge: I challenge you to reply back, and list a failure of yours (or multiple) and what you learned from it, how it changed your perspective, and allowed you to grow.

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Cheers,
Eric Aaberg